0:01 Danette when you filed for divorce you 0:04 said that we would be amicable what 0:06 happened I talked to an attorney who 0:08 said that I wasn't getting everything 0:10 that I should get he said that the way 0:12 that you were being was abusive and that 0:14 the children would be better off with me 0:16 most of the time but we agreed and you 0:19 told me that I could pick up the 0:21 children and take them camping with me 0:22 this weekend 0:23 all agreements are off Arthur you just 0:26 don't get it 0:27 it's not good for the children to spend 0:29 so much time away from home 0:31 you are just disrupting their routines 0:33 you get the time that the court has put 0:36 in the temporary orders and that should 0:38 be more than enough for you to of your 0:40 playtime while I spend all my time 0:42 taking care of the responsibilities and 0:44 making sure that the children are taken 0:46 care of what do you mean I take care of 0:49 them just as much and I want to continue 0:51 no Arthur you don't get to do that in 0:54 divorce besides you don't even know what 0:57 the children take for their lunches to 0:59 school it is not good for the children 1:01 to have two homes like that and of their 1:03 routines and schedules disrupted my 1:06 attorney says that it's better if just 1:07 one of us has the most of the time that 1:10 is better for the children are you being 1:17 treated this way in your divorce Arthur 1:21 is not alone unfortunately this happens 1:24 to many parents and children Arthur has 1:26 been served with an order restricting 1:28 his time with his children and to pay 1:30 child support Arthur has also been 1:33 kicked out of his house and false 1:34 allegations are now being made I just 1:38 don't understand how things got this way 1:40 my relationship with my children was 1:43 just fine before this is very confusing 1:45 and painful for Arthur he has not had as 1:49 much time to come to terms with the idea 1:51 of divorce usually the other parent has 1:53 been planning to file for divorce for a 1:55 while so Arthur does what most parents 1:58 do and makes an appointment with an 2:00 attorney before learning he has rights 2:04 Arthur goes to this attorney with hopes 2:07 that this can all be stopped and made 2:09 amicable again our there has no idea 2:12 that he will be 2:13 subjected to extreme burdens and expense 2:16 Arthur has no idea that his and his 2:18 children's rights will be completely 2:20 ignored my wife and I were working 2:24 things out just fine and then she got 2:26 this attorney who is making her do 2:28 things that she never did before she is 2:31 even telling the children that I'm bad 2:33 and that I left them Arthur we can 2:36 certainly help you we will need to do 2:38 discovery and find out as much dirt on 2:40 your wife as we can the worse we can 2:43 make her look to the judge the better 2:45 chance you have of getting the children 2:47 oh and if you can get the children to 2:49 side with you do it having the children 2:51 on your side is half the battle can you 2:54 get the children to say that they want 2:56 to live with you oh and we may want to 3:00 ask for a guardian I'd like them to 3:02 protect your children if things really 3:04 ramp up Arthur is being led into a 3:09 process that ignores his and his 3:11 children's rights there will be lots of 3:13 delays and even more loss of time with 3:16 his children and Arthur is being led 3:18 into spending tens of thousands of 3:20 dollars and going through years of 3:21 stress and suffering 3:23 Arthur is also at high risk of being 3:25 alienated from his children or 3:27 alienating them from the mother just so 3:28 that he can continue to be a meaningful 3:30 part of their lives there must be a 3:33 better way I don't want to take my 3:36 children from their mother and I 3:37 certainly don't want to make her look 3:39 bad there is a better way but Arthur 3:42 isn't being told this why isn't Arthur 3:47 being told that he can protect himself 3:49 from being alienated and protect his 3:51 children by protecting his rights 3:56 because this alternative way is not 3:59 taught to attorneys today so Arthur is 4:02 going to have to learn this way on his 4:03 own Arthur is going to have to learn 4:06 that his rights those children are not 4:07 connected to his marriage to the mother 4:09 and divorce is not a legitimate reason 4:11 to take away his right and he is going 4:15 to need to get these arguments into the 4:17 court one way he can do this is by 4:19 making sure that his pleadings aren't 4:21 waiving his right and by making his 4:23 testimony count Arthur needs to learn 4:26 to protect himself with his testimony 4:27 and his pleadings Arthur's going to 4:31 learn that by protecting his rights he 4:34 is also protecting the children's rights 4:39 Arthur goes to meet sherry with fixed 4:41 family courts to see if she can help 4:43 sherry is co-author of the number one 4:46 parental rights book not in the child's 4:48 best interest then he found on Amazon hi 4:54 sherry I got your book and have read 4:57 some of it I would like to know how I 4:59 can use some of it in my case great 5:02 Arthur I'm glad that you found the book 5:04 your rights are what will protect you 5:07 and your children from further damage 5:09 from alienation and from these courts 5:11 yes I feel like I'm just being cut out 5:14 more and more and everything the 5:16 attorney suggests is very expensive and 5:19 takes a lot of time you told me in an 5:23 email that your children were not have 5:25 alienated before all of this so you were 5:27 suffering from what we call court 5:29 induced parental alienation I have given 5:31 you some resources to learn more about 5:33 witness okay thanks and how do I help my 5:37 attorney use this information from the 5:39 book you will use the motions the 5:42 motions have simplified the arguments 5:44 that are in a book and the motions have 5:46 added the arguments from the declaratory 5:49 judgment brief that we filed in federal 5:51 court okay sounds simple enough so far 5:54 starts by giving your attorney the equal 5:57 protection and due process motions you 5:59 need to get the court to hear these 6:01 motions we have a webinar that teaches 6:03 more about how to do this okay great 6:06 where do I find these webinars at 6:10 www.fixez.com slash webinars get into 6:15 one right away before any more time goes 6:17 by and things get even worse okay I will 6:20 do that since I have a hearing coming up 6:23 for the temporary orders is there 6:25 anything else that I should do before 6:27 the hearing yes also register for the 6:30 how to tell your story support group 6:32 webinars 6:36 the how to tell your story testimony 6:38 supports group webinars are also all 6:41 online you can come to them from the 6:43 comfort of your own home the support 6:45 group is intended to teach you how your 6:47 testimony is used as evidence you will 6:50 learn how to make your testimony work 6:52 for you do I register out the same page 6:55 as the other webinar on the motions yes 6:58 go to www.skybanditz.com Oni from akele 7:20 as well oh wow I'm going to go online 7:23 now and get into those webinars at WWF 7:27 it's family courts calm slash webinars 7:29 oh and I'm going to subscribe to your 7:32 email list too so that I get email 7:34 notifications about new stuff like this 7:39 great I look forward to working with you 7:42 and helping you empower yourself and get 7:44 better results and end the unnecessary 7:46 costs and delays