Truth Bomb 5 Part 2 Religious Beliefs and Values in Child Development

So your religious beliefs, your moral, your values, those are the core intimacies you share with your child day in and day out. Something as simple as praying before meals, praying before bedtime, reading your child bedtime stories, all of the . . . answering random questions. Here's one of the reasons why your equal time is so important is because children ask questions randomly throughout the day based on what's going on around the.

And if you don't share those intimacies, the mundane things in life, you're not going to get an opportunity for that child to ask you those questions and for you to answer them from your perspective, you're point of view, with your values and your beliefs. So it's not okay for the judge to say for you to be Disneyland dad or whatever the situation is.

You need to be doing all of the things every day. Where you get to interact with your child in all the different ways that children interact. What's vitally important here is that children learn from observation. They learn a lot more from watching what you do then they do from listening to what you say, especially when you're giving them formal education. Right. The formal education is vital and important.

But children learn so much more just from watching what you do and seeing how you behave, and seeing if you practice what you preach. If you say be good to other people and you're not good to other people, you're child picks up on that, right. So it's vital that they get to see you every day doing these things through all the different elements of life.

So this is probably the strongest thing that you have that will convince your child to follow your religious beliefs and your values throughout their adult life. It's the fact that they've observed YOU following through on these things and doing these things. Not that you've taught them but that they've watched you doing it. That will stick with them into their adult lives much more than anything else.

And if you don't have the time with your child, your child doesn't have the time to observe you living your values, and they don't carry your values into the future. And the judge cannot permit that because it violates the constitution. So when the judge takes your time away, the judge is forever altering your child's religious future into their adult lives. And the Supreme Court has been very clear, the court simply cannot do this.

So in picking a winner and a loser parent your judge is deciding what influences will be strongest in your child's life, particularly religious influences. As we've said the First Amendment doesn't permit the judges to do this -- not directly by asking religious questions, nor indirectly by depriving you of the time to share these things with your child. It doesn't even matter that religion is never raised in your proceedings.

And a reasonably smart judge will avoid religious questions at all costs. But the mere fact that they can take y our time away interferes with your religious freedom. They don't have to say I'm doing this for religious reasons to violate your religious rights for your First Amendment rights to be invoked and to provide you protection. You really need to introduce this concept of First Amendment rights and particularly religious freedom rights from the very beginning -- put it in your pleadings, put it in your motions, object in every single hearing.

Any time they talk about limiting time, object and raise the issue that the judge is violating the First Amendment. And more importantly is irreparably injuring the child which is contrary to the child's best interest. So, and raise the fact that you have the right to teach your child your religious values through the intimacies of daily living, through all the mundane activities that parents are supposed to have with their children.

Drive that point home with the judge. Make sure they know that any loss of time is going to be censorship and is going to be challenged as censorship. And more importantly censorship of religious speech and religious education. And just to be clear, alright. Religion doesn't stand over and above your other First Amendment rights. It stands on equal footing with your other religious rights.

But it is called out specifically and specially in that the government is prohibited from being involved in religion. And because our founding fathers wanted a pluralistic society where everybody was free to practice whatever religion they wanted without worrying about the government condemning them or punishing them in any way. Many of our, many of the people who founded this country came here because their religious rights were being persecuted in Europe.

And so they came here to get away from that. And even though they were all predominantly christian in those early years, there were many, many sects of Christianity. And the different sects of Christianity had a tendency to persecute one another over minor doctrinal differences. And our founding fathers were very aware of this and they made very clear that they specifically told the government "You shall not interfere in religion," period.

Government has to stay neutral in religion. It can't sponsor religion. It can't ask for more religion. It can't promote religion, nor can it demean or degrade religion, or try to provide encourage less religion. It has to remain neutral, completely neutral. So that's just an important technical point. But remember your religious rights whether or not you're religious, whether or not you go to church on a regular basis, whether or not you practice your religious beliefs on a regular basis, you're right to share those religious beliefs with your child; whatever degree they exist or don't exist is protected by the First Amendment for both you and for your child.

It is not in your child's best interest for any judge to violate your child's First Amendment rights. And that is as simple as it gets.